SEX; It’s not just for procreation!

SEX; It’s not just for procreation! Let’s do some research first and then I will give you guys my opinion.  “Some say that being gay is wrong because there is no way to procreate. (While procreation for gays is impossible, the right or wrong aspect of gay sex is debate for another day!) If that is so, then sex between a sterile man and /or a barren woman can't be justified either since there is no way for them to procreate.    The sex for procreation only argument is unscriptural. Let's look at the two examples in the Bible where sex took place for procreation only (by the way even incest was used to “procreate” so let’s reserve judgment  for a later time): 1. Abraham and Hagar In Genesis chapter 16 we find the story of Abraham and Sarah. God had promised Abraham a son but Sarah was barren. After trying with no success Sarah decided to take matters into her own hands and in Genesis 16:1,2 she tells Abraham to sleep with her handmaiden so that he could build a family through her.                     Genesis 16:1-2 Now Sarah, Abram's wife, had borne him no children. But she had an Egyptian maidservant named Hagar; so she said to Abram, "The LORD has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my maidservant; perhaps I can build a family through her." Abram agreed to what Sarah said.   I don't think Sarah really meant for her husband to just sleep with the maid since that's not how you make babies. She was telling him to have sex with her. The sex for procreation only between Abraham and Hagar was not what God wanted. The child, Ishmael, was born from that union.    God blessed him but made it very clear that he was not the son of the promise. In fact, at one point God didn't even recognize Ishmael once Isaac was born from Sarah about 14 years later. (Genesis 22:1,2).    Ishmael ended up being the father of the Arabs. Because of this union of sex for procreation only, there continues to be animosity between Arabs and Jews who are indeed brothers!! 2. Lot and His Daughters In this account Lot's daughters feel an urgency to procreate. The only available man is their father. They decided to get their father drunk so they could get pregnant by him.                     Genesis 19:30-38 Lot and his two daughters left Zoar and settled in the mountains, for he was afraid to stay in Zoar. He and his two daughters lived in a cave. One day the older daughter said to the younger, "Our father is old, and there is no man around here to lie with us, as is the custom all over the earth. Let's get our father to drink wine and then lie with him and preserve our family line through our father."    That night they got their father to drink wine, and the older daughter went in and lay with him. He was not aware of it when she lay down or when she got up. The next day the older daughter said to the younger, "Last night I lay with my father. Let's get him to drink wine again tonight, and you go in and lie with him so we can preserve our family line through our father."    So they got their father to drink wine that night also, and the younger daughter went and lay with him. Again he was not aware of it when she lay down or when she got up. So both of Lot's daughters became pregnant by their father    The older daughter had a son, and she named him Moab; he is the father of the Moabites of today. The younger daughter also had a son, and she named him Ben-Ammi; he is the father of the Ammonites of today. (NIV) The oldest daughter gave birth to the Moabites and the youngest gave birth to the Ammonites. These tribes became idol worshiping enemies of Israel. One of their gods was Molech to whom they offered human sacrifices. (You can read about this throughout the Old Testament.)   What does the Bible say about sex as an expression of love between two people in covenant relationship?    There are several barren women in the Bible who were favored by their husbands. These couples continued to have sex knowing that they could not conceive under normal circumstances.    They were Sarah, Rachel, Hannah, and Elizabeth. Sarah and Elizabeth were still having sex with their husbands past child bearing years! Was it for procreation or as an expression of love?    Each of these women were greatly blessed even though they had sex when procreation was not physically possible. You can read about Sarah and Rachel in Genesis 18:9-12 and 30:22-24, about Hannah in 1 Samuel 1:1-20, and about Elizabeth in Luke 1:6,7.   A final example of sex as an expression of love is found in the Song of Solomon. This book of the Bible is a collection of love poems between two people that are in a covenant relationship.    When you read this book of the Bible you will not find the words children, offspring or family. You will find the word lover mentioned 28 times, darling mentioned 19 times and the bride's breasts are complimented 8 times."  Hey two thumbs up to that! Let’s keep reading….   In the beginning sex was created to continue the human race, but was also created for our own pleasure. So let’s see why some people are so afraid to talk about sex, have sex, embarrassed and consider sex a big taboo.  I know some couples that stay married just for the comfort, security, company etc. TOTALLY disagree with it but I respect that.   By the same token I think we only have one life and we have to live it to the fullest in every way. If you are married and are in one of the situations mentioned above, you are not alone. In fact some women at a very young age are looking for men with a nice job, a nice house, nice car; they are looking for that “security” that maybe even their mothers had.    Nowadays a lot of women marry for the wrong reasons, and not for love… I know, I know, love is not going to put a roof over your head, or feed your kids etc… but that’s why the divorce rate is so high nowadays; because no one marries for love anymore. What is up with that?    What is the success rate of these marriages for convenience? Well a lot of couples cheat on each other due to this fact, since they got married for convenience. The sex was killed before the marriage started, and I really don’t give a f@#k what other people think about this… but sex is good and VERY important for a marriage to survive!    I guess you are asking what would happens if your spouse becomes ill and unable to perform sex, well that is when the word LOVE comes into place. I am old school in many ways and I think love will overcome all marital pitfalls.    Human beings need to love, and to be loved; it’s natural and we all crave it one way or another.   What the Bible say’s about sex for pleasure: “1 Corinthians 7:2-6 (New International Version, ©2010) 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command” So Ladies, let’s have sex for pleasure as well as procreation. There is absolutely nothing wrong with pleasuring yourself or your man.    Do some researche of your own before you say “yes” for all the wrong reasons. You can find that special guy who makes you smile, or makes you want to kiss him and make love to him. The guy who makes you want to hug him even when he smells like crap! The guy who gives you that feeling of security that all women desire.    Security is good, but do you want spent the rest of your life with someone you can’t stand just because he provides security? If you answer yes to this question good luck to you.    To the rest of us who got married crazy in love with our man, no matter what flaws he may have… good for us, because we are going to spent ours days with the man we chose to be our partner; our companion and our F@#k buddy! Let me know your opinions, and keep your heels on at all times!  A.    R